Traumatized people can become addicted to a stress hormone called endorphin. When stress is reduced in their lives they can go through withdrawal. These people then need to make themselves feel better so they create some stress so they can get their hit of endorphin. I call this the Inner Drama Llama. Do not feed your Inner Drama Llama! Take a deep breath and exhale. Take another deep breath and exhale.
Endorphins play a vital role in our survival. Many of us who have survived a lot of trauma have become use to living in survival mode. Having endorphins lowering pain, stress has become a norm in our lives.
The endorphins our bodies produce are not just painkillers. They reduce anxiety, rage, depression, and fear. Endorphins are vital to attachment behavior from birth to death. They increase when social support increases, and decrease when social support is withdrawn. Lack of early care in animals effectively reduces endorphins and may do so in people as well.
Not surprisingly, given their powerful analgesic and calming effects, large amounts of endorphins are released as an integral part of the fight-or-flight response (Creating Sanctuary: Toward the Evolution of Sane Societies, Revised Edition, By Sandra L Bloom).
When our lives are peaceful and the stress is lowered can be challenging because we are use to living our lives on the edge, and fighting for survival.
In this post, I am hoping you become aware of when you are creating drama, through lateral violence, in your home, with your family or in your community. Just become aware of when you have that feeling like, huh, this is all too peaceful and I am uncomfortable.
Don’t judge yourself. Just be aware when your Inner Drama Llama needs to be fed.